Avoiding negative reviews

[quarterback]

Made this as a comment in another thread. I thought I’d create a separate thread for this.

How to avoid negative reviews if you are an escort:

Body:
The biggest thing is to have accurate photos. They should be recent, taken within the past year. Don’t Photoshop or edit them, or if you do, keep it to a minimum. If you are reshaping your body significantly, you’re a catfish. Even flattering lighting and angles can be a problem and misleading. Videos are always nice too, but there's a reason not many providers use them, and a lot of those who do rely on flattering angles and lighting. Videos can also have filters and editing. If you look the same in real life as your pictures, or if you look better in real life than in your pictures, no one's going to negatively review your body.

Face:
If you’re face out, follow the same guidelines as mentioned above: use recent photos, avoid heavy editing, and wear the same amount of makeup that you plan to wear when meeting clients. If you aren't face out, be realistic and objective about your looks. A lot of women overrate their own attractiveness, and other women reinforce this perception, while many guys aren’t going to be honest with you either. However, you should have a good idea of where you stand in terms of facial attractiveness compared to other women. Be realistic: if you’re charging high rates, you better be really objectively attractive, most providers who charge high rates aren’t. If your rates match your level of attractiveness, I guarantee you won’t get any negative reviews about your looks. But if you’re charging a high rate and aren’t that attractive, you’ll probably receive a lot of negative reviews or at least a few.

Attitude:
Simply be friendly, welcoming, and kind. You'll get extra credit for being feminine. Have at least basic social skills and show that you genuinely want to be there. Maintain a positive attitude. Guys tend to be quite forgiving when it comes to attitude, as long as you have the fundamentals in place. Same with personality, we aren't trying to date you, so we will be forgiving if you have a boring or bad personality. Dont be on drugs. Dont talk politics. The bottom line is that we're there for sex.

Service:
It's pretty easy for a woman to be good at sex, just get the basics right. Act like you're into it, be enthusiastic, provide the services you advertised, and be a good communicator. A lot of this also depends on the client, and the rest often falls under attitude.


Please feel free to share your thoughts or disagree in the comments. It would also be wonderful to hear from some providers.

[MarcusGlizzy]

dont be chopped 
0r if ur chopped, charge chopped prices 

[Lawman]

Being truthful about one’s age is also an important factor.

One thing I dislike about the listing site Tryst.link is that providers can choose not to disclose their age in their ads. Labels like "20s" or "30s" are far too vague, and allowing options like "secret" in the age section is simply absurd.

I hope that when the listing section of this site is operational, providers will be mandated to include their age.

[adastr@]

Being truthful about one’s age is also an important factor.

One thing I dislike about the listing site Tryst.link is that providers can choose not to disclose their age in their ads. Labels like "20s" or "30s" are far too vague, and allowing options like "secret" in the age section is simply absurd.

I hope that when the listing section of this site is operational, providers will be mandated to include their age.

Age is definitely one of the most important factors, and it's unfortunate that many agencies exaggerate it by a few years.

One approach with Menz is to implement a verified age tag. Instead of just listing the birthday, it could indicate a verified age. The only problem is time and costs. Somebody has to spend the time to verify, mods won't have time for this, somebody would have to be hired to do this.

Otherwise ages are listed like this: 23-26 - Mid 20's

I think its better to have an age range than to lie about the age. What do you think?

[razzar1234]

Being truthful about one’s age is also an important factor.

One thing I dislike about the listing site Tryst.link is that providers can choose not to disclose their age in their ads. Labels like "20s" or "30s" are far too vague, and allowing options like "secret" in the age section is simply absurd.

I hope that when the listing section of this site is operational, providers will be mandated to include their age.

Age is definitely one of the most important factors, and it's unfortunate that many agencies exaggerate it by a few years.

One approach with Menz is to implement a verified age tag. Instead of just listing the birthday, it could indicate a verified age. The only problem is time and costs. Somebody has to spend the time to verify, mods won't have time for this, somebody would have to be hired to do this.

Otherwise ages are listed like this: 23-26 - Mid 20's

I think its better to have an age range than to lie about the age. What do you think?

besides having the sp's post government id to manually verify their age, thats pretty much impossible. but yeah age ranges are obviously better than lying about age

[FinanceBro]

I might get a lot of heat for saying this, but I have seen a couple other guys say this before, so I know im not the only one thinking it.

Generally, overall, it seems that being an escort ages women much faster than those who aren't escorts.

Which makes them lying about their age to pretend to be younger even more of an issue.

[yaletownfuckboi]

Generally, overall, it seems that being an escort ages women much faster than those who aren't escorts.

Even if this weren't true, the widespread issue of providers significantly lying about their ages creates the impression that it is.

If I were an escort in my 20s, especially in my early or mid-20s, I'd be really pissed off at all these escorts in their 30s and sometimes older who are pretending to be in their 20s.

[quarterback]

Being truthful about one’s age is also an important factor.

One thing I dislike about the listing site Tryst.link is that providers can choose not to disclose their age in their ads. Labels like "20s" or "30s" are far too vague, and allowing options like "secret" in the age section is simply absurd.

I hope that when the listing section of this site is operational, providers will be mandated to include their age.

Absolutely, you're correct. I completely agree, and I'll make sure to add that to my list above.

[MissHunter]

Ok I’ll share…
Only provide what you’re comfortable providing. If you aren’t feeling it in the booking process, decline. There will always be more guys contacting you. Don’t be afraid to be your genuine self on social media , sure it may repel some but it’ll attract those you have a higher likelihood of vibing with
Use real pics. I don’t do the pro pic thing my selfies have always been good enough. The pics that have attracted me the most $ I’ve been completely destroyed in
Some of my ad pics are older but I’ve made efforts to maintain the same size for a very long time (mostly cuz I don’t want to be bothered with buying an entire new wardrobe)
Over the years some have told me I’m not doing it right but I’m getting older yet my wallet is never hungry and I’m able to be very selective with the clients I take on & keep

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I’ve been in this a long fucking time. What most guys want is someone they can connect with on a human level who doesn’t misrepresent themselves physically (men are very visual creatures, it’s just how it is)

[MissHunter]

I’m not the queen of complete accurate representation. My Leo ads are 39. But
I’m early 40s
Not sure how much that matters
Overall most of my reviews have been positive for soooo long but I had a couple more critical ones many years ago accusing me of being almost a decade older when I advertised my real age which resulted in attracting guys looking for a more mature provider at the time , which caused a bit of disappointment on their end

[Plato]

Why does it feel like all the independent escorts on Tryst have their photos taken by the same photographers? Those photographers are really good at making them look way better than they do in person! The editing is way over the top! they almost look like anime characters with how much they've been edited! Wouldn't you want to look like your photos to avoid disappointing people and getting bad reviews? You can't really say you have your clients' best interests at heart if you're misleading them!
Indeed, the intricacies of the female mind elude my understanding, and the workings of the female escort's mind are even more enigmatic!

[Emilia_S]

Why does it feel like all the independent escorts on Tryst have their photos taken by the same photographers? Those photographers are really good at making them look way better than they do in person! The editing is way over the top! they almost look like anime characters with how much they've been edited! Wouldn't you want to look like your photos to avoid disappointing people and getting bad reviews? You can't really say you have your clients' best interests at heart if you're misleading them!
Indeed, the intricacies of the female mind elude my understanding, and the workings of the female escort's mind are even more enigmatic!

There aren’t many escort-friendly photographers in the city. A lot of providers have their photos taken by touring photographers (there are a few good ones from mtl). 

Personally, I think that the independent photographer who took my photos did a really nice job and she edited my photos less than most agencies have in the past. Hardly any difference between the raw shots vs edited. I was very pleased.

[KimChiHoles]

Being truthful about one’s age is also an important factor.

One thing I dislike about the listing site Tryst.link is that providers can choose not to disclose their age in their ads. Labels like "20s" or "30s" are far too vague, and allowing options like "secret" in the age section is simply absurd.

I hope that when the listing section of this site is operational, providers will be mandated to include their age.

Age is definitely one of the most important factors, and it's unfortunate that many agencies exaggerate it by a few years.

One approach with Menz is to implement a verified age tag. Instead of just listing the birthday, it could indicate a verified age. The only problem is time and costs. Somebody has to spend the time to verify, mods won't have time for this, somebody would have to be hired to do this.

Otherwise ages are listed like this: 23-26 - Mid 20's

I think its better to have an age range than to lie about the age. What do you think?

there isn’t an sp alive who wouldn’t be more comfortable w an age range than exact age ., like early 20’s , mid 20’s , late 20’s

[FinanceBro]

Being truthful about one’s age is also an important factor.
One thing I dislike about the listing site Tryst.link is that providers can choose not to disclose their age in their ads. Labels like "20s" or "30s" are far too vague, and allowing options like "secret" in the age section is simply absurd.
I hope that when the listing section of this site is operational, providers will be mandated to include their age.

Age is definitely one of the most important factors, and it's unfortunate that many agencies exaggerate it by a few years.
One approach with Menz is to implement a verified age tag. Instead of just listing the birthday, it could indicate a verified age. The only problem is time and costs. Somebody has to spend the time to verify, mods won't have time for this, somebody would have to be hired to do this.
Otherwise ages are listed like this: 23-26 - Mid 20's
I think its better to have an age range than to lie about the age. What do you think?

there isn’t an sp alive who wouldn’t be more comfortable w an age range than exact age ., like early 20’s , mid 20’s , late 20’s

I’m sure you’re right, but is there really a strong argument for using age ranges instead of exact ages? Sure, people can still lie about it, but using exact age gives them a little less wiggle room to lie without getting called out for it.

I think the argument for using age ranges instead of exact ages will likely revolve around "something something privacy," but I find that to be a weak argument in my opinion.
A question for Adastra: once users enter their age, are they permanently locked into that age on the site, or can they change it at any time?

Somewhat funny anecdote, I know a girl personally who works as an escort and has been in the industry for a while now (since her early 20s). She always used her actual age in her ads until she turned 25, and now she maintains her listed age at 25. I believe she will turn 29 this year.

[MissHunter]

I don’t think advertising just a few years off is a big deal. And it’s not just ones advertising as a bit younger, sometimes barely legal SPs will advertise as bit older to avoid the guys who are looking for someone really young hoping they’ll be naive so they can push boundaries

[Emilia_S]

I don’t think advertising just a few years off is a big deal. And it’s not just ones advertising as a bit younger, sometimes barely legal SPs will advertise as bit older to avoid the guys who are looking for someone really young hoping they’ll be naive so they can push boundaries

Agree. Taking anywhere from 2-5 years off a providers age is just standard in the sex industry, I know pretty much all OF girls do the same. Advertising as 10+ years younger is a stretch that most providers can’t get away with though. 

I’ve yet to meet a real 19 year old in this industry, they’re all at least a couple years older. I do think advertising that young can attract some clients w bad intentions.

[FinanceBro]

I don’t think advertising just a few years off is a big deal. And it’s not just ones advertising as a bit younger, sometimes barely legal SPs will advertise as bit older to avoid the guys who are looking for someone really young hoping they’ll be naive so they can push boundaries

Agree. Taking anywhere from 2-5 years off a providers age is just standard in the sex industry, I know pretty much all OF girls do the same. Advertising as 10+ years younger is a stretch that most providers can’t get away with though. 

I’ve yet to meet a real 19 year old in this industry, they’re all at least a couple years older. I do think advertising that young can attract some clients w bad intentions.

I think that just because it's the norm, it doesn't mean we should accept it or encourage it.

[adastr@]

A question for Adastra: once users enter their age, are they permanently locked into that age on the site, or can they change it at any time?

They can change it at any time.

I agree with you about raising the standards in the industry. I think age verification matters more between 18 - 25 - because there’s a significant amount of maturity and change during that time. Between 25 - 30, not as much. If a 20-year-old guy walks into a session thinking she is also 20, but she’s actually 25, he will notice , and that’s not fair to him. But if it’s a 45-year-old guy, the age difference between 20 or 25 won’t be as big of a difference, though it’s still noticeable with her maturity, personalty, skin, face, etc. And if its a 45 year old escort advertising as a 37 year old, most guys won't notice or care. Would you agree with assessment?

[Ekso]

I don’t really care about advertised age. If the photos are accurate I don’t think it matters.